But when it comes to invitations, bridesmaid dresses, presents for your attendants — go about your business knowing he isn’t that interested.

When to count him in: when it matters. What does your fiancé like? Is he a foodie? You’ll do well to turn the catering menu over to him. Scared to relinquish control of the Perfect Day? You’re marrying this man and getting ready to share all of life’s million details together. He can handle it.

(this tip originally from Jennifer Manske Fenske)